Ahhhh, Valentine’s Day. It’s a day we celebrate love – for our family (storge), for our friends (philia), and especially for our lovers and significant others (eros). There’s a 4thtype of love, but since Valentine’s is about those who are near and dear to our hearts, we can leave the universal love (agape) for the rest of the year.
I specifically want to focus on eros, because, well, you know – sex. We all want to make sure that when we’re showing our partners how much we love, desire, and appreciate them, that it’s perfect. I know what (most) of you are probably imagining – romantic dinner for two with dimmed lighting, everyone dressed in their best outfits, and little chubby Cupids floating around the room shooting people with arrows …. maybe not EXACTLY the last one, but something like that. All this before the big event – rose petals leading off to the bedroom, candles lit along the walls, boxes of chocolate covered strawberries waiting to be devoured by someone in the sexiest lingerie you picked out. What’s that? You don’t know how to pick out lingerie for your partner? GOOD THING YOU HAVE LADY GENEVIEVE TO HELP YOU.
Right so picking out lingerie isn’t the easiest thing in the world, but fortunately for you, you’re more of an expert on your significant other than you probably realized.
First things first – communication. Is lingerie something your partner will actually want or appreciate? And I don’t mean the person who sits there and tests you and says up and down “No, no, no, I don’t want it” but secretly does because they just want you to buy things for them. I’m talking about is this the person that buys their own lingerie or sexy sets. Do they like surprising you with them or do they go shopping with you when looking for something new? Or are they clearly uncomfortable with the idea of anything else but a t-shirt and sweats? Are they just outright against lingerie in general? Also, is the timing to buy lingerie appropriate? Is your partner going through some physical changes that they may be uncomfortable with or is there an event going on in your life that may be pulling their focus away from the romantic aspect of the holiday? I’m not going to sit here and convince you that “everyone wants it” because that is not the truth. For example, last year I had my daughter with me for the holidays and the most romantic thing Lance did was just help me take care of her and that’s more than I could have asked for from him. This year, she’ll be with her dad so, although I have some reservations about Valentine’s Day in general (don’t ask), if we do plan to celebrate, I probably would want to have more sensual theme to it.
Sizing is CRUCIAL. This is a huge factor in buying for your significant other because going too small or too big can cause some self-esteem issues with your partner (this goes for guys and girls too). Also for the obvious reason that even if they think it’s cute, if it doesn’t fit, they probably won’t wear it. This is where RESEARCH becomes another huge factor in buying for your SO. If you’ve ever worked in clothing retail or are passionate about clothes, you know that not every brand sizes the same way and even WITHIN a brand, sizing can range. Types of lingerie will also fit differently – babydolls, teddys, corsets, body suits, garters, bras and panties – will all be snug in certain places and loose in others. I know it seems like a lot, but you can always check your SO’s drawers for some go-to brands – pay attention to what elastic has lost its bounce and what may have shrunk when washing. My rule of thumb with online shopping is focus on the products with the higher amount of reviews or at least the 3-star reviews as they tend to be the most honest (by honest I mean they have a good amount of both pros and cons on the product). I know, I know, this all sounds like a lot, but you’re already off to a good start by reading this blog entry! GOLD STARS FOR EVERYONE.
SUPER IMPORTANT – AVOID SETS. Yes, we sell sets at our store, but most of those sets just have basic thongs that can be easily replaced with another panty we may have laying out or something else you may have in mind already at home. Sets may have “sizes” but they’re more “one-size-in-this-particular-bra-type-which-doesn’t-necessarily-mean-the-bottoms-fit-right” sizes. Take the shape of their body into account, maybe even their sense of style – this will help you find the appropriate sizes as well as takes their comfort into account. I love garter belts, but they don’t tend to fall perfectly around my waist and sometimes the tights squeeze too hard on my ham hogs, so I’ll avoid that type of lingerie for the most part. Bodystockings are a nice option because they will stretch to fit an individual so one size truly does fit most. Not to toot the stores horn or anything but all of our stuff is decently priced so you could probably buy several outfits if you can’t decide.
Talking about their sense of style, remember who you are buying for– you or them? Is this your fantasy that you want to play out, or is this to compliment them? And maybe they will want to take part in your fantasy, but be sure you are catering more to their wants and desires…. I mean, you are showing your appreciation for them aren’t you? I’m sure they’re returning the favor too. And I’m not saying don’t try to add a splash of what you desire in there, but why buy something they may only put on once and hope you forget it exists later down the line? This kind of goes back to my questions earlier – do they take you shopping with them or ask for your advice? You probably know their style, their favorite color, or their desired comfort more than you realize. They’ll know if you picked out the color because it reminded you of their favorite sports team or if because your favorite porn star wore something similar. Also, myself and my associates are there to help, but we cannot judge what your SO would prefer or what would fit best for them. Asking about what types of lingerie we have, what the material is, sizing – yes we can absolutely help you with, but everything else will have to come from you.
Finally, your presentationof it is going be the deal breaker in all of this – no pressure or anything. Sure, we’ve all see the funny viral videos of guys giving their girlfriends lingerie in front of their parents as jokes, but this is where you’re going to absolutely SHINE. I could give so many different ideas on how to go about doing this, but you’ll need to work on this one on your own (also, not trying to give Lance any ideas, I want to see what he comes up with on his own). I will say that the addition of toys, lubes, and other games or accessories would be the perfect addition to not just the lingerie, but the night in general (ARE YOU LISTENING LANCE?!).
Trust me, you got this. Stay Sexual!